My boyfriend and I went from butterflies-in-our-stomach phase to the more serious, sleeping-over and "sleeping"-together phase quite quickly. We were attracted to each other that much. The sex was awkward and dull at first but then it had always been like that even after a few months. We never moved on from the boring sex to the point that it started to get frustrating.

We both wanted the sex to be mind-blowing. We tried in vain - yet again, quite awkwardly - by using toys and sex enhancement pills. It did not work. All it did was put more distance between us. So we improvised. We did a 'trial and error' on techniques we have never done before and by far, these are the tricks that came out on top. Pun intended.

Keep it exciting
Excitement is a natural fuel for desire. Of course, one can only get excited if he/she is unaware of what’s to come. Keep the surprises coming and don’t limit yourself to sexy time creativity.

• Play games. Turns out, toys can be extremely useful when used well. We had the “sexy dice” during long, naked nights. We also play games and taking off clothes as a form of bet.
• Talk dirty. Words have far more effects on your mind and your buddies down there than you can imagine. Sexy words can wake up your inner animal like never before. My boyfriend used to call me at work in the middle of the day to whisper some really dirty thoughts to me. That had me running home to him after work, on the dot.
• Use foreplay. Never underestimate the power of foreplay. One huge lapse for us was foregoing the importance of foreplay. When we started experimenting on it again, the pleasure from sex escalated further, if that’s even remotely possible.

Do your part!

This one is for the ladies.

Girlfriends, it’s a huge sin to let your man do all the work. Sure he may like pleasuring you and seeing you come undone, but trust me when I say that a man wants just as much attention, even more. I’ll let you in on a little secret: men are not hard to please. You can either:

• Give him a show. No man will ever pass up on a good lap dance and strip tease. After a long day at work, giving him a sexy show will take all the stress away. Screw beer and sleep.
• Touch him. A simple, sensual touch can turn your man’s mood almost instantly. If my boyfriend is in a bad mood, when we get home or if we’re alone, I touch him in places that he likes to be touched to lighten his mood.
• Give him a massage. While your massage can loosen his tight muscles, you can be sure another part of him will tighten up and get him in the mood for sexy time.
• Every man loves a blow job. Need I say more?

Bring Extagen to the picture
Like I said, we tried sex enhancement pills and for a long time, none of them worked. My boyfriend and I were beginning to think that there aren’t any legit sex enhancement pills and we resorted to just going for a round two to make his erections last longer every time.

When we were introduced to Extagen, we were initially skeptic but we tried anyway because what the hell, right? It turns out we only needed one more try and it was Extagen who changed our lives.

Since my boyfriend started using Extagen, he had longer, harder, fuller erections and the pleasure was unbelievably incredible. Our sex life skyrocketed and we were like bunnies, humping any chance we get.

So if anyone asks us how our sex life is going, I just give them my after-sex-glow smile which I know is now a constant in my appearance.

It takes a lot more than just affection and butterflies in the stomach to keep the fire burning in a relationship. I learned that the symbolic fire does not pertain to the devotion you feel for your boyfriend. It is actually the burning desire, the lust, the longing to be with your partner skin to skin. If this fire is fuelled well, your relationship can blow your minds just as how you like it. I know it did for us.

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